Therapy can Help . . .
● Reduce arguments
● Improve communication
● Enhance feelings of love and connection
● Regain intimacy and trust
When you first fell in love, it was wonderful. You couldn't wait to see each other. You knew this was the right relationship, even if there were some things to be worked out. As time went on, perhaps with changes in the family, children, jobs, stresses of daily life, some of the spontaneity went out of the relationship. Maybe you began to argue over parenting. You may be arguing all the time. One of you may be withdrawn or avoiding conflict. Maybe one of you had an affair. You may be arguing because of worries about the economy and how it has impacted your life. You may be having sexual difficulties.
If you want to stay together and heal the relationship, there is hope. Having worked with many couples, I'm aware that often hurts from childhood and the ways people were parented can begin to impact their couples' relationship. Some of the thoughts and feelings that can impact a relationship include fears of abandonment, not knowing how to be heard or how to ask for what you want directly in a way that doesn't end in an argument, and being overwhelmed by the stresses of daily life.
As you begin to understand yourself and your spouse or partner, it will be easier to see that you are both doing the best you can to love each other. Both of you want to be loved and to love, to have a feeling of connection, safety and security; a relationship that is nurturing and allows for growth. Couples counseling provides a place to be heard, to be seen, to feel safe, and to build or rebuild a secure connection.
Sometimes in the course of Couples Therapy, it becomes apparent that Family Therapy would help. For more information on Family Therapy, click on here. For more information on Emotionally Focused Therapy, click here.