Therapy can Help . . .
● Reduce arguments
● Improve communication
● Enhance feelings of love and
connection
● Regain intimacy and trust
When you first fell in love, it was
wonderful. You
couldn't wait to see each other. You knew this was the right
relationship, even if there were some things to be worked
out. As time went on, perhaps with
changes in the family, children, jobs, stresses of daily life, some of
the spontaneity went out of the relationship. Maybe you began to
argue over parenting. You may be arguing all the
time. One of you may be withdrawn or avoiding conflict.
Maybe one of you had an affair. You may be arguing because of
worries about
the economy and how it has impacted your life. You may be having sexual
difficulties.
If you want to stay
together and heal the relationship, there is hope. Having
worked with many couples, I'm aware that often hurts from childhood and
the
ways people were parented can begin to impact their couples'
relationship. Some of the thoughts and feelings that can
impact a
relationship include fears of abandonment, not knowing how to be heard
or how to ask for what you want directly in a way that doesn't end in
an argument, and being overwhelmed by the stresses of daily life.
As you begin to understand yourself and your spouse or partner, it will
be
easier to see that you are both doing the best you can to love each
other. Both of you want to be loved and to love, to have a
feeling of connection, safety and security; a relationship
that is nurturing and allows for growth. Couples counseling
provides a place to be heard, to be seen, to feel safe, and to build or
rebuild a secure
connection.
Sometimes in the course of Couples Therapy, it becomes apparent that
Family
Therapy would help. For more information on Family Therapy,
click on here.
For more information on Emotionally Focused Therapy,
click here.